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How, when and why using the values game in coaching?

coachtine — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 04:39:01 +0000

Hello

During my journey through coaching, it became obvious to me that the values game is not at all a waste of time. Here was my thought when I was using one first : “It is fun, it can’t harm anyway, lets see where it leeds to“. I was doing it on a simple sheet of paper, ticking boxes when relevant and eventually ending with my 5 my values. I sent the result to my coach. And then, I forgot about it. Meanwhile, she was actually using the values as elevators or in other ways she thought were efficient. And we ended our twelve sessions without coming back to them. I did play another time with an online values game and it appears that my values had slightly changed. I gave the online link to my new coachee but she failed to fill it properly as she couldn’t really see the point. So I tried another values game. This is cards. Funier, easier to concentrate on (I think) even if it takes time. I can’t wait to see the results on her.

1. First game

WHY? : Discussing with another coach, we came to the point than to mean more the game could be use throughout the coaching process, allowing both the client and the coach to really measure one result of the coaching.

WHEN? : First play at first session, second play at 6th session and last play at last session.

HOW? : And while you play the game, ask yourself the same question : “Who am I truly, does this value fit me?“

2. Second game

HOW? : doing it twice each time asking yourself 2 different questions “How do I like to be seen?” or “Do I like this value, would I like this value to fit me? writing the 5 values on a piece of paper and replaying the game asking yourself : Who am I truly, does this value fit me?“

WHY? : and comparing the 2 sets of values to work on the gaps.
Have a good day
Martine

CoP Life

coachtine — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:55:58 +0000

This morning, I tried CoP Life. I was in an action mood and decided to give a mini coaching to Michelle. She had a problem of time management. It went pretty on my point of vue and I was happy when she said I gave her a different perspective.

Tasanee coached Ruth after. She manage quite well to built a safe atmosphere so Ruth felt trust and talked freely of her problem.

coachtine — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 14:54:13 +0000

Happy year 2009, have joy, smiles, emotions, feelings, experiences, adventures, fun, sweetness, pleasures, comforts, love, tenderness, strengh, tolerance, trust, appetite, zest, and above all, have a fulfilling life !!!

Powerful requests

coachtine — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 11:54:23 +0000

A bold request make the client building (re) self confidence and even if he says no and give a reason, it had at least shaked him and made him wonder why he couldn’t do it. The idea will grow and mature into his mind and eventually he would see the request easy to accept. So the BOLD request become a request.

Are you curious? Powerful listening 2

coachtine — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 12:57:15 +0000

Are you curious about your client? Conventional questioning provides the source for information, Curious questioning provides for self exploration. Example : conventional : How much exercice do you need this week? curious : What would you need to see yourself as an advanced coach ?

Empathy is good for coaching.

Martine

Acknoledgement 2

coachtine — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 02:43:50 +0000

What is really an acknoledgement? How to acknoledge somebody or oneself?

Try to appreciate but not telling your opinion, just telling the facts. Saying “what you have done is great” is actually about yourself and not about the person you are talking to. It means “I think what you have done is great”. In saying “I know you have done this or that already” is much more an acknoledgement.

How to translate the concept in french? sometimes, using “encouragement” is appropriate, sometimes “appréciation”, sometimes “notification” or “observation”.

Coaching Model

coachtine — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 02:14:26 +0000

I found interesting coaching model in looking at Mike’s website : http://www.mentoringforchange.co.uk. The Solution focus coaching one is very suiting me.

Coaching Process

coachtine — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 01:57:38 +0000

Make sur you don’t assume you know the client and LISTEN what he has to say.

Listening and reformulating to be sure we both understand the same thing.

W.A.I.T and listen powerful listening 1

coachtine — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 14:24:12 +0000

In coaching the most difficult at the begining when you listen actively is that you are disturbed by trying to figure out what appropriate you will say once the client has finished.

Trial or Discovery session?

coachtine — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 04:24:15 +0000

I read the material before going to this teleclass and I had the impression of the writer being in an ideal world where it was easy to earn his living, with plenty of time to spend just for fun. Was I wrong in thinking trial session is a way to attract a client?

The first commentaries I heard in the class were all focus on trying to explain what was coaching all about, explaining in details how we coach (what is the coaching model) and how the client would go through the process. Ronnie acknoledged but it was not long before she drove us back in the business reality tracks, saying that she no longer offers trial sessions, that cost her a lot in time, money and is not attracting thatmany clients. She prefers to offer discovery sessions where she tryes to assess what is the real goal of the potential client, question him about his timeline and commitment to this goal. She as well give him a broad picture of what her coaching can be and she explain then what are his options : Package A, B,…, or if she felt she is not the type of coach he needs, she addresses him to another person. She does not coach in this discovery session.

It was great for me to hear a marketing sound after all self development talks in ICA because after all I am sure than as me, a lot of student have as major goal to built a profitable business in coaching.

Thank you Ronnie for being so honnest